Dear 14-year-old Ali: the Do’s and Don’ts of High School

2 Nov

WordPress does something called the Daily Prompt to get the creative juices flowing. I’ve always either forgotten to submit something, or I have been too intimidated to try it out. I liked today’s topic, so I thought I’d give it a go…

Dear 14-year-old Ali:

You have finally arrived – you are a Freshmen in High School! In case you can’t tell, I’m being sincerely sarcastic. High school years aren’t your best, but you learn a ton from this experience. Buckle up for a bumpy ride. Exciting times are ahead, but you’ll have to endure some things along the way. Here is some advice to help you out:

Don’t: For one, don’t drop out of the band. You’re a really great flutist and you could do so much more if you listen to Mom and stay the course. You’ve won all-county awards, preformed at the Governor’s Mansion for Christmas and you were first chair in middle school. Don’t move all the way to the last chair in high school. I promise that being in the band is not social-suicide like you think it is now! You’ll be disappointed in the future that you gave up the lessons and the opportunity to master a musical instrument.

Do: Embrace your nerdiness because people will appreciate it later on in life. The man you wind up marrying will dance around the house with you and make up funny songs about your animals, like you enjoy doing now. Don’t be worried about being cool because no one cares when you’re an adult. Be proud of your straight A’s and for making honor roll – you deserve the recognition!

Don’t: Don’t be afraid to date other people. The first person you fall in love with is not going to be the last. You may learn more from others, so branch out and date more. Or just hang with your friends – they’re really good people. Later on, you’re going to regret the fact that you turned down a great guy as a prom date and opted for your first love that was fizzling out anyway.

Do: Appreciate your sister being in high school with you, leading the way and introducing you to older, more sophisticated kids. She will get you rides to school, opposed to taking the bus, and you should be forever grateful for that. Your sisters will continue to be your best friends throughout life and you should appreciate the closeness of your family. Your parents and sisters are awesome, which brings me to my next point…

Don’t: For the love of God, do not yell at your family so much! You can be quite the moody teenager, so just take a chill pill and relax. You don’t realize this now, but you are really lucky to have such a supportive family and you should not take them for granted. Cherish the moments of being around the dinner table and attending family functions. These times will shape who you are. You will become independent eventually, just don’t grow up too fast and try to lean on your parents a little bit more. Speaking of being feisty, don’t take anything out on your teachers. Your 9th grade English Lit teacher is going to be one of the best teachers you’re ever going to have, and you should not – I repeat do not – throw your papers at her in a fit of rage and anger. Yes, it will go down in history with your classmates, but no it will not get you anywhere in life with that kind of behavior.

Do: Definitely join drill team, and then later on in the year follow your older sister to play lacrosse. The girls you meet on the lacrosse team are the perfect kind of misfits that you will need in high school. Don’t get me wrong, drill team is also cool and it will give you the dancing confidence that you have today. You will have a fun time with the drill team, but lacrosse is really where it’s at. Keep on running even after the lacrosse season is over. You go on to do half-marathons…I know, can you believe it?!

Don’t: You shouldn’t let people dictate what you’re going to be like in life. You are a very sensitive person and you take everything that people say seriously – you’ll learn this eventually, but just don’t take things to heart so much. Don’t let people poking at you get the best of you. When people make fun of the fact that you eat soy ice cream and soy hot dogs, just let it go. Your parents are paving the path for your healthiness in life and you wind up helping others choose healthier options when you’re an adult (not to mention, you become vegetarian, so tofu becomes a normal part of life and you should get used to it!). If you just be yourself throughout high school, which I think you’re doing a pretty darn good job at, and not care so much what people think then you will turn out alright.

You’re reading poems by Jewel right now from her book A Night Without Armor, so heed her advice:

I would always encourage people of any age not to be so quick to follow other people’s truths but to search and follow your own moral code and live by your own integrity, and mostly just be brave.

Live your own life and create your own journey.

XOXO and all that good stuff,

Yourself in 14 years


6 Responses to “Dear 14-year-old Ali: the Do’s and Don’ts of High School”

  1. marymtf November 5, 2012 at 4:58 am #

    Loved your post. I’m way past remembering 14 except for the glass of milk and biscuits all through my high school years. My mum sat me down at the kitchen table every day after school. I’d drink icy cold milk and eat a slice of cake or some biscuits. She would about my day.Then I’d be off to my room to do my homework. You just can’t get that kind of service once you leave home. I guess we all take our supportive family for granted.

    • Prosey Rosey November 5, 2012 at 6:32 am #

      Thank you! It’s amazing what moms do for their kids – I remember my mom working a full day and still cooking a huge dinner for us. Thanks for sharing your memories!

  2. happyflowerwordzoo002 November 3, 2012 at 3:07 pm #

    I felt too intimidated to attempt but applaud your post. Could so relate, especially need to take a chill pill. Great post.

    • Prosey Rosey November 3, 2012 at 4:59 pm #

      Thank you for the kind words!

      • jessica johnson November 4, 2012 at 12:32 pm #

        Ali – this is the best piece of writing i have ever seen from you. I love it and love you!

      • Prosey Rosey November 4, 2012 at 1:26 pm #

        Thank you so much! I’m starting to be more honest with my writing, so I guess it’s working 🙂

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